When I posted the last blog, I had no idea that this would catch such a fire by storm and become viral (over 6,000 hits in one day!). Thanks for the tremendous responses. It just confirmed to me what is important to you all. All you want is your children home. The children that need families, and the families that want to love and care for them. Period.
Please do not make any hasty decisions on your adoption process and give up because of this let down by Korea. Your children deserves your patience, and I am sure they share in your disappointments. It is not the end. It is still a work in progress. And I am fully aware that this does not ease your great pain.
However, I appeal to all of you. Do not give up on your children. They have waited for you just as long as you have waited for them. Let no mountain of adversity nor raging storms of events discourage you.
I also appeal to all of you to be calm. Do not contact your politicians, nor call the agencies nor contact the Korean Embassies or other authorities to complain as these actions may backfire and make the situation worse. What do they know about all the issues regarding the Special Adoption Laws and its impact? They are far removed from what is going on with you. They would have to go out of their ways to just learn about all the issues, and they may rub the folks at the Ministry of Health and Welfare and the powers that be at the Family Court in a wrong way and make it counter-productive. Also, please do not blame any adoption agencies. They share in your frustrations.
It is enough that you have vent your frustrations through this blog, and many of you have sent me emails as well. Your responses will not be ignored. We at MPAK are reading every single one of your comments and responses, and capturing in a database as I write this. Thanks to Denise Adams and Junhyung Lee (MPAK-Orange County Directors) for taking the leadership role in compiling all the comment feedbacks, and summarize the comments by category and the number of people with similar issues - i.e. financial reasons, family issues, unable to take the time without losing jobs, health reasons, being in military services, and many more.
Thanks to many of you that have offered excellent ideas to argue. Many have expressed how this law is not fair to implement in midstream of the adoption processes as the parents were not informed of such things at the beginning when they signed up to adopt. Many have also expressed the insecurity of being in Korea and waiting - not knowing whether the birthmothers would change their minds or not, and traveling to Korea with such uncertainties at such high expenses with enormouse stresses on them and to the rest of the family members...this just isn't right by any standard.
I plan to review the summaries that my MPAK team will put together and have a review with a few members before sending it to Korea. To whom I will send is sort of proprietary and I won't mention the names or organizations. But the ultimate destination is the members of the Family Court. It will be clear to the lawyers and the judges of the Family Court what the waiting families abroad are thinking about and where their hearts are in this matter. They will clearly hear your voices.
I promise to do everything in my power and ability, and do my utmost to speak for all of you, and hope that reasons will prevail, and that favorable outcomes will be achieved for all the waiting children that need to come home, and the waiting families that ache for them. I can't promise a miracle, only that I will try my best. So please pray for me.