Monday, December 23, 2024

The Silent Night that Triggers My Early Memory

The First Christmas – The Silent Night that Triggers My Early Memory

The two boys huddled to warm themselves before a small fire burning inside a makeshift tent-like hut. The hut was so small that a grown-up man could not stand. The boys ages must have been around five and the younger one around 3 ½. The night was dark and cold with knee-deep snow outside.  The boys had barely eaten anything all day long and they were hungry. 

All day long they walked the streets looking for food and rummaged through the discarded trash, and they walked the streets in hopes of finding a coin or two to buy something to eat, but the snow made it difficult for them.  So, it was going to be another night of going to sleep with hunger.  Their bodies itched with lice, and they would take their clothes off and heat it near the flame without burning, and would watch the lice crawl out of the seams and the boys would kill them off one by one. In a shiver they would quickly put their clothes back on.

Then out of the darkness and into the hut came in their father, with a big smile on his face, and he was in a good mood.  The boys thought something was unusual with their father, who would usually come home drunk and often beat their mother and the boys.  A few months earlier the mother, who could not stand getting beaten every day, ran away from home.   So it was unusual for the boys to see their father come home with a good mood that night.

He reached into his pocket and pulled out a couple of pieces of breads wrapped in a newspaper, and gave it to the boys.  Then he surprised the boys by singing “Silent Night, Holy Night”… that’s all he knew of the song.  So, he repeated it again and again several more times but did not know the rest of the song beyond “Silent Night, Holy Night”.  The boys didn’t understand what the song was about as they had never heard of such a song before.  However, they eagerly devoured the bread and were content that their father was in a merry mood and happy they had something to eat that day. The boys would long remember that there was something special about that night.

On typical days, the father would leave the hut in the morning, leaving it up to the boys to fend for themselves.  He left no food or drink.  Each day the boys roamed the streets looking for food to eat.  A few months later the boys would learn that their father is captured by the police and put in a jail.  For the first time the boys are without both mother and father, and they are on their own. 

But the boys were able to survive each day as they continued to roam the streets, and able to find something to eat.  There were some kind-hearted people that would pity the boys and give some food. There was one particular woman who sold steamed crabs under a bridge where the boys’ hut was, and she took interest in them and would often give them free crabs.  She was kind to them, and the boys liked her.

One day the woman decided to take the younger boy to her home to raise him, leaving the older one behind.  She bought new clothes and put them on the younger one and took him home.  The five years old boy is now all alone for the first time.  It was the last time he would see his brother.  He was envious of his brother who now didn’t have to roam the streets looking for food to eat or be cold.

A few days later the older boy would be found by a gentleman, and he is taken to an orphanage.  He stayed there a few months before being transferred to another orphanage to get surgery on his crippled leg.  There he met hundreds of other children in the orphanage.   There he met Harry Holt and his family.  

On one cold Sunday, the orphans were all gathered up in a chapel, and there they sang the “Silent Night, Holy Night”.  As the boy followed along and learned the song, he thought he had heard the song somewhere before.  Then he remembered…it was the same song that his father tried to sing a year earlier where the father didn’t know the rest of the song. The boy learned to sing the rest of the song and knew it was a special song. 

All is calm, all is bright.
Round yon Virgin Mother and child!
Holy Infant so tender and mild,
Sleep in heavenly peace.

Son of God, love's pure light,
Radiant beams from Thy holy face,
With the dawn of redeeming grace,
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth.

Through the years as each Christmas rolled in, whenever he heard or sang this song, it would trigger the boy’s memory that would always drift back to the time when he first heard the song from his father.  And each year the meaning of the song became more and clearer to him in a special way, but at the same time mixed with sadness.  As the boy grew into an adult, his heart sensed a feeling of compassion for his lost father, who eventually died without ever knowing the rest of the song, nor the status of his children.

Despite all the pain and abuse the boys suffered under his father, that snowy Christmas eve night, a long ago in a small hut, the terror became peace as the first Christmas spirit was experienced by the boys.  The father who could not sing beyond “Silent Night, Holy Night”, at least made a special night to remember for this boy, who would later bear the name of Morrison.

Merry Christmas.   

Saturday, December 21, 2024

Will the Adoptees Without Citizenship be 'Mass Deported' under the Trump Administration?

It's been a while since I posted on my blog, and I wish to slowly start this again. 




I got a call from Korea from a man with ties to a government official, who was approached by a Korean-American with alarming news about the potential threats to adoptees being mass deported under the Trump administration.

The Korean-American man, who apparently did not have the full facts, stated to the government official that the Korean government needs to prepare for the 20,000 adoptees that will be deported back to Korea as they have no US citizenship, and that Trump would deport them all. He also stated that there have been 40,000 children that have been adopted to the US over the years, and 20,000 of them are with no citizenship. I couldn't help but laugh at this story.
I corrected the gentleman who called me and told him these facts:
1. There have been over 110,000 children that were adopted from Korea to the US, not 40,000.

2. 20,000 adoptees are the ones that have not been clearly verified whether they have citizenship or not. Many adoptees have moved on and could not find or locate them to verify citizenship status. It doesn't mean that all 20,000 adoptees are without citizenship. It's just that they have not been verified.

3. The Trump deportation program mainly applies to the illegal immigrants that came into the US under the Biden/Harris administration. While the statistics on the illegal entries by the migrants vary, depending on the source it ranges anywhere from 12 million to 20 million. ICE has reported that 643,000 people had criminal history, and over 13,000 people had a murderous background. It is no wonder why the Trump administration would focus on these groups of illegal border crossers.

4. As it has been in the past for many years, adoptees without citizenship have not, and will not be deported, other than those with criminal records. As long as adoptees do not commit crimes, the US will not deport them. Because of this, many adoptees that have found out that they didn't have citizenship later applied and obtained citizenship. So Trump's deportation plan would not include the adoptees that came in legally.

5. During the 70 years of intercountry adoption, only 10 adoptees have been deported back to Korea (according to NCRC). These adoptees all have criminal records. The stories of these adoptees have been spread so widely within Korea that most Koreans think there are thousands of adoptees who are being deported, or will be deported.

6. I and my members at MPAK, and a few other organizations have campaigned against deporting any adoptees, regardless of whether they have committed crimes or not as they entered this country legally. Somewhere along the adoption process, the filing of citizenship fell through, and many adoptees grew up without knowing their citizenship status. But the current adoption laws and process have removed this error.