tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post4922785857606094744..comments2024-02-15T23:56:02.370-08:00Comments on MPAK Blog: The Ruling Party Gets Involved - in the Special Adoption LawSteve Morrisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-9132436035217236722013-04-28T20:02:43.964-07:002013-04-28T20:02:43.964-07:00I think K makes many assumptions. People adopt to...I think K makes many assumptions. People adopt to love and take care of a child. To give them the best life that they personally are able to. No matter if a have a biological child or adopt from Korea or any other country I must provide for my child. I can provide for my child with the job my husband and I have, share our loving home and give our child grandparents who will love them and be a part of their lives. Roots and culture should be respected and shared with an adopted child but they do not define who a person is. I may be American but I also have family roots in another country. Just because I live in the US does not mean that I do not respect my roots..roots are the beginning of a life. Sometimed a living plant gets transplanted. Its just a new place to grow. I suggest K grow a heart. We adopt to love a child. Plain and simple.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16824736544288730350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-55157460516455386942013-04-25T06:35:01.839-07:002013-04-25T06:35:01.839-07:00She's not your child. She's not your daug...She's not your child. She's not your daughter yet. Not legally, not medically, not genetically, not historically. Something's you can't have all the answers too. Sorry, but that's the facts of life. You always have the option to stop waiting.<br /><br />If you do continue to adopt a child, it is hoped that you will have lots of patience. This child will have major adjusting to do - to a new country, life, family, language, food, culture, trust, etc. and this should be at your new child's pace, not yours. Your child will require your complete patience in the beginning, and again at various times throughout life. If you don't have patience now for things beyond your control, before you even adopt, then perhaps adoption isn't the best thing for you and your potential child. Believe me, after you adopt, many things will be beyond your control and the child you adopted should NOT be blamed for your lack of patience and understanding. No one is forcing you to make this major change in your life and another child's.<br /><br />Again, my question to many of you, is why do you want to adopt from Korea and then return to your respective countries? Why not move to Korea and raise these Korean children in Korea, close to their roots and culture? Why do they have to move to where YOUR roots are?Knoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-7184529789804868522013-04-24T19:05:17.422-07:002013-04-24T19:05:17.422-07:00Is this the order of things now? The birthmother ...Is this the order of things now? The birthmother is contacted for rerelinquishment. She again signs for the child to be adopted. 14 days follow her decision. Then, the case proceeds to court for review. The. Adopting parents are contacted to travel. They meet the child who has EP and the parents wait fourteen days for the court's decision that awards them custody. Is this correct? <br /><br />This would seem to indicate that Adopting parents will stay at least three weeks or travel twice???<br />I am simply trying to get the order straight. Will the Visa Interview also occur during that time, or will they have to do that in the following week? (week 4)?<br /><br />Thanks for your help!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-90439938966709627292013-04-24T16:01:49.279-07:002013-04-24T16:01:49.279-07:00We've been waiting for our child to come home....We've been waiting for our child to come home. We've been waiting and waiting for almost 6 months since the EP was given. We have not got a date to pick her up? How much longer do we have to wait to get our child? She's almost 3 years old and no one seems to know when. By the time our child gets here, she'll be under-developed socially, educationally and language. It's putting her life and our lives in peril. HOW MUCH LONGER?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-72431045048146595932013-04-24T11:57:21.404-07:002013-04-24T11:57:21.404-07:00Thanks for the links. They were helpful in clearly...Thanks for the links. They were helpful in clearly distinguishing the two forms of visas. I think what I'll do is to post the differnces in the blog as not all the readers are aware of the differences.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-26742751889216152812013-04-24T11:14:27.317-07:002013-04-24T11:14:27.317-07:00According to the articles above only IR3 is consid...According to the articles above only IR3 is considered auto citizenship, not IR4. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-11018456812194946062013-04-24T11:08:55.967-07:002013-04-24T11:08:55.967-07:00The differences: http://myfamilylaw.com/library/ch...The differences: http://myfamilylaw.com/library/children-parenting/adoption/faq-what-is-the-difference-between-an-ir-3-visa-and-an-ir-4-visa/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-68200709408443021822013-04-24T11:06:22.514-07:002013-04-24T11:06:22.514-07:00http://travel.state.gov/visa/laws/telegrams/telegr...http://travel.state.gov/visa/laws/telegrams/telegrams_1408.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-46464581932408990672013-04-24T10:13:24.879-07:002013-04-24T10:13:24.879-07:00If the families see the judges, then they will mos...If the families see the judges, then they will most likely be issued IR-3 visa with citizenship. This is preferrable, but even with older IR-4 visa method, the law that was passed in 2000 declares that adopted children will be automatically granted citizenship. So I see no reason why families need to travel to accomplish this. I am confused as well, and will examine it more.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-83812799848805223862013-04-24T09:47:03.436-07:002013-04-24T09:47:03.436-07:00Dear Steve: I appreciate what you do for the chil...Dear Steve: I appreciate what you do for the children and the families. Would be great if you could help to clarify regarding the court appearance? I also heard from an agency that the judges are changing their mind and requiring families to appear in court, what is not cleared is when the children come home the type of visa they'll use. This is getting really confusing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-49867256404960127992013-04-24T07:05:39.160-07:002013-04-24T07:05:39.160-07:00I think not. It is really driven by the court as ...I think not. It is really driven by the court as to who they would like to interview, not your availability to travel.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-28372430300689004522013-04-24T05:31:53.747-07:002013-04-24T05:31:53.747-07:00Just curious Steve, If a family is willing or able...Just curious Steve, If a family is willing or able to travel for court, will they be allowed to do that? Will that change the option of the visa they come home with?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-38868360707651891332013-04-23T13:18:40.694-07:002013-04-23T13:18:40.694-07:00The family court reserves the rights to summon any...The family court reserves the rights to summon any families to appear before them, and this has not changed even with the recent relaxation of the travel requirement by the court. I just don't have enough information to give additional comments on this but I'll try to find out.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-71289938328954531692013-04-23T13:14:42.148-07:002013-04-23T13:14:42.148-07:00Not sure what agency you are with, but some from H...Not sure what agency you are with, but some from Holt were told yesterday that there are court dates for some families scheduled at the end of May and that there might be 1 long trip or 2 shorter trips. I believe they will be going in the way of IR3 Visa process to comply with Hague as there has been many parents who never got COC for their children prior to the 2001 law that is auto citizenship. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-90340212517510480192013-04-23T13:06:00.593-07:002013-04-23T13:06:00.593-07:00There were court dates for April and we haven'...There were court dates for April and we haven't heard of anything. How can they know anything for mayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-45875036029882684562013-04-23T12:35:35.301-07:002013-04-23T12:35:35.301-07:00Thanks Steve~ More questions.. We hear that court...Thanks Steve~ More questions.. We hear that court dates are scheduled for some families at the end of May. Have you heard about what this is for and/if all families will now be asked to go to court? Will this now go for a IR3 vs. IR4 visa? Reneehttp://yahoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-12591076312385498192013-04-22T14:28:09.034-07:002013-04-22T14:28:09.034-07:00Renee, you are asking questions like a reporter. ...Renee, you are asking questions like a reporter. Good questions. The children are being abandoned, put on black market for illegal adoption for those that wish to keep adoption secret or do not want to go through the complexities assoicated with home studies or criminal checks...etc that a lawful adoption proces requires. In some cases birthmothers decide to keep their babies, no data on this one. The abandoned babies all go to orphanages and they are not adoptable since there have been no relinquishment papers signed by birthmothers. There have been many birthmothers that have contacted the agencies and they have been turned away since the birthmothers did not want to register their babies in their family registry, and by law the agencies cannot take the children for adoption. This is the major reason for the significant reduction in the intakes by the agencies. The reception rooms of the agencies are now empty.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-49859705342242299072013-04-22T14:08:31.907-07:002013-04-22T14:08:31.907-07:00Just clarifying, under #1- the children go directl...Just clarifying, under #1- the children go directly to orphanages?? under #2- decrease in Korean PAPs, then under #3, the process is just taking longer. What accounts for the 70% decrease of intakes at the agencies? #1? Or also the agencies are refusing children because the reception room is full?Reneehttp://www.yahoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-21528439543776916712013-04-22T14:01:55.559-07:002013-04-22T14:01:55.559-07:00It appears that perhaps you have recently started ...It appears that perhaps you have recently started to read this blog. Please visit my previous blog at: http://mpakusa.blogspot.com/2013/01/the-irony-of-adoption-law-that-blocks.html for explanations.Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-25341168104579999692013-04-22T13:51:41.722-07:002013-04-22T13:51:41.722-07:00I don't understand. There are privacy laws in ...I don't understand. There are privacy laws in Korea right? Why is the registry such a bad thing? I am not clear on how it works? Isn't that private information and why can that be looked at by potential employers, etc? Is this the same thing as the family registry? These documents are open to anyone in the public for viewing? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-51716443781429244132013-04-22T13:42:26.823-07:002013-04-22T13:42:26.823-07:00The reduction in the adoption can be attributed to...The reduction in the adoption can be attributed to three things: 1) The law forbids birthmothers from relinquishing the babies to the adoption agencies without first registering them (this cuts the adoptable children available), 2) Majority of adoptions happened in secret before, and the fact that the parents have to stand before the court means that the parents cannot hide their adoption facts (this cuts adoptive parents in Korea that want secret adoptio), 3) the court is still adjusting to the new adoption process and they haven't got it all figured out yet. Steve Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485811260567035056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-91021011556873992282013-04-22T13:23:34.351-07:002013-04-22T13:23:34.351-07:00Steve, could you please explain why there have onl...Steve, could you please explain why there have only been 22 domestic adoption cases since the new law implemented? Do Korean families only want newborn babies? Have agencies stopped taking in new children because the mother's have to put them on a registry or because the agencies can't take anymore children in? What is actually going on in domestic adoption in Korea right now? If there is indeed increased awareness and desire in country to adopt, are you seeing this happen? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-69316328553973887822013-04-21T17:28:54.921-07:002013-04-21T17:28:54.921-07:00I am glad there is some willingness to revise the ...I am glad there is some willingness to revise the parts of the law that currently seem to not be in the best interest of the children or the birth mothers. Hopefully such revisions can be made soon in order to protect more babies. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-81534458103883024362013-04-21T17:15:35.379-07:002013-04-21T17:15:35.379-07:00I think it's important people voice their opin...I think it's important people voice their opinions (arguing points). We are a family who has been waiting over a year to bring our child home. I can understand the frustation as well as the importance of being respectful of opinions. <br /><br />I also think it's important we DO address these argumentative issues rather and JUST thanking MPAK for their updates (which I am VERY thankful for). If we are just thankging MPAK for the updates, how will Steve know what issues are the issues?<br /><br />I say, keep "aruging" as long as it's respectful of each other's opinions and the Korean courts/goverment/etc. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8283674149915853764.post-70294169867040678232013-04-21T13:54:22.122-07:002013-04-21T13:54:22.122-07:00Thanks Steve for your post, we appreciate the upda...Thanks Steve for your post, we appreciate the update. The wait is so very hard but we will continue to pray for the lawmakers, judges, birth mothers, foster mothers and most of all the children. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com